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Raising your Self-Esteem: Free Book

This free book is based on the first 4 modules of the Self-Esteem and Confidence Course. It is 95 pages of knowledge and information and exercises on exactly how you can raise your self-esteem. Because this is a free book, feel free to pass it onto anyone who you think would want it.

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10 Tips to move from average to extraordinary. November 2018

Some people are very happy to be average. And if you are, that is fine. There is a place for everyone in this world. If you are someone who wants to be more than average, who wants to make a difference, or leave their mark on the world, then you need to do that bit extra. If you are someone who wants to shake things up, then read on.

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The pleasing response: October 2018

We get told that the response to danger is fight or flight. Like everything to do with human beings, however, it is more complicated than that. There are at least two other responses that are common - freeze and fawn (please). Sometimes in a dangerous situation fight is not an option and neither is flight.

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Myths society feeds us: September 2018

We, as human beings, are our own worst enemies. There is nothing new in that statement. We know it. One of the ways in which we hurt ourselves is that we live in a society that perpetuates myths about how life should be. And then when life is not like that, we stress, we berate ourselves, we get anxious, and we wonder what we are doing wrong.

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How do you deal with Obstacles? August 2018

So how do you deal with obstacles? There are many ways in which different people deal with them. You could be someone who throws their hands up in despair and gives up.

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What is Exhausting You? July 2018

Energy is one of our most important resources. We don't have unlimited energy. Some people may look like they have, but no one has energy for everything and then still to spare. And so, if energy is an important resource - and it is because without it you can't get anything done - then you need to look at how you are using your energy.

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Seven Signs of Abuse: June 2018

Whether in the workplace or in your personal life, abuse is perpetrated more than we would like to believe. The first step towards dealing with abuse is recognising it. Sometimes it is easier to recognise than at other times. If you get hit or assaulted most people recognise that clearly as abuse. Below are seven signs that may be less obvious, especially to the one being abused.

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From Crisis to Opportunity: May 2018

Most human beings like certainty in their life. Yet, crises come into our lives no matter how much we try and avoid them. And so, as creatures preferring the familiar, we try and restore our lives to the order that it was before. Which, while understandable, may not be the best thing. In fact it may not even be possible. Sometimes your life just cannot go back to what it was before. And sometimes that is a great thing.

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How to Stay Calm: The RAIN Method. April 2018

We have all come across the person, or else we are the person, who flies off the handle and reacts, often in an angry, stupid or violent manner. And then afterwards, on realising what a dumb thing it was, regrets the action. Whether you call it reactive, impulsive, reckless or just plain silly behaviour, it is not helpful in just about every situation. The good news is that you can learn to stay calm.

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How to deal with a drama queen: March 2018

Drama people thrive on attention. But that is typically because growing up they learned to feel invisible and unimportant. They also typically tend to have poor coping skills so they can't manage themselves and their emotions adequately. They are trying to convince you, and therefore themselves, that they matter. And unfortunately their behaviour sabotages their efforts.

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Do you need better personal boundaries? Feb 2018

Personal boundaries refer to the rules we set in our lives for how others may speak and act around us. Personal boundaries are not there to keep people out. They are there to stop unwanted behaviour from entering your space.

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No more New Year Resolutions: Jan 2018

First of all, let me wish you a wonderful year ahead. May 2018 be full of love, joy, happiness and success. There is a whole year ahead of you; a whole year full of opportunities for creating the life you want. Some things will not be in your control, however lots of things will be in your control. And how you respond to everything is in your control.

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Create more joy in your life: Dec 2017

Here we are again. Yet another December. This December we are not going to talk about gratitude, or family. We are not going to talk about doing a post-mortem of the past year and what you learned and didn't learn. And we are not going to even think about your goals and how they went. We are going to think about JOY. After all, that is what really matters.

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An Open Letter to those who are Struggling in Life: Nov 2017

Dear One,

Life is hard. Somehow we have this expectation that it shouldn't be so hard. Yet it is. So many people are overwhelmed by how things have just become so difficult for them. There you were, happily getting on with your life, doing what everyone does .....

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5 Habits to Build Resilience: October 2017

If you are someone who finds economic downturns horrible then you need to read on..

It is easy to be happy, successful and full of life when things are going well.

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Make every day a - Choose- Day: September 2017

It was a conference I was at where the phrase, "If it is to be, it is up to me", was bandied about fervently like a catch phrase that would solve all your problems.

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Are you a perfectionist? August 2017

So are you? Generally speaking if you are then you experience more stress, hurt, anxiety and pain than you need to. Perfectionism is not a good thing. It can stop us from taking action unless we are 100% sure we will succeed, and so we aim too low.

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A quality life starts with quality questions. July 2017

Most of us are concerned with knowing the answers. We hope we will give the right answer when asked a question. We believe the more answers we know the better our life. And some believe that if you are a leader you really are only any good if you know most, if not all, the answers.


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6 Coping methods for when it all gets too much. June 2017

No matter how much people may try and make every day great, every day is not a good day. You can utilise every tool you know for positive thinking and problem solving, but some days will just suck. Being competent to life means learning how to get through those days

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How to Worry Less. May 2017

Note that the heading is not, "How to stop worrying". I don't think zero worrying is a good thing. If you never, ever, worry about anything you will be approaching a state akin to mania and are most likely to be reckless. Some worry keeps us alive, motivated, and solving problems.

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When being negative can be vital for your emotional health. April 2017

"I am so sorry for being so negative", she said. That was after discussing how she had lost a loved family member. In fact she had every reason to be upset. To be happy in such a situation would just be weird. To experience a painful loss and walk around with a cheesy grin on your face is just so wrong.

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5 Strategies to get that job or promotion. March 2017

In this newsletter I am going to talk about something most people will go through several times in their lives. That is, finding a new job or getting a promotion

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8 Warning Signs of an Unhealthy Relationship: February 2017

Relationships are fraught with challenges. In some ways this is needed in order that we grow and learn. It is close to impossible that we would meet someone and everything would be perfect for ever after.

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A Great 2017: January 2017

It feels quite odd to be typing in 2017. No doubt I, we all, will be used to it very soon. From my side, I wish you all a wonderful, marvellous, fantastic, splendid (whatever else you want to insert that is positive) year.

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Dealing with difficult family over the holidays: December 2016

The holiday season can strike dread into the hearts of some (or is that many). "Oh no, that means I have to listen to Uncle Stewart's endless stories about the war and how lucky we have it today. And then sister Jeannette and her husband will spend most of the days yelling and screaming at one another.


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Spring Clean your Life: November 2016

I do realize that for those of us in the Gauteng Province, spring is long gone. Summer is well and truly here with some sweltering days already behind us, and no doubt plenty more to come. However there really is never not a good time to spring clean.


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How Managers can improve the Self-Esteem of their Staff: October 2016

Without strong self-esteem people perform below their potential. People who are passive, insecure, and lacking in confidence do not propose new ideas and suggestions to improve the business. They lack belief in themselves to influence others to the company's way of thinking and are not good agents of change or leaders. On the other hand people who are arrogant and brash are disliked, sometimes feared, and generally avoided.

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Anger *%^/& Management: September 2016

Although anger has got a bad wrap, anger itself, as a feeling, is a perfectly normal and healthy emotion. It is the inappropriate acting out of anger that is the problem. Like all feelings, anger is sending us a message.


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Bullying in the Workplace: August 2016

This is not a new topic, being probably as old as we have had workplaces. However it shows no sign of abating, especially not with the stresses and strains in the workplace today.

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10 Ways to be Happier: July 2016

Okay, so I decided to write something on happiness, which always feels like venturing into Holy Grail territory, because what do people want most? To be happy.

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7 Signs of Toxic Friendship: June 2016

Many people don't live purposely. That is life just happens to them.


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Assert Yourself: May 2016

I want to talk about assertiveness in this newsletter as I find it is still a concept and practice that is misunderstood.

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Breaking up with your bad habits: April 2016

We all have them. And we wish we had never developed them in the first place. I am talking about our bad habits, which could be biting our nails, eating when we are upset, smoking, procrastinating, lying on the couch when we should be doing exercise, etc. Bad habits prevent us from accomplishing our goals and interfere with our lives. They can jeopardize our physical and mental health and they are mostly a waste of time and energy.

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Start your own business: March 2016

This month I am going to put on my SMME coach hat and talk about some things you want to think about when you start a business.

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Your social environment: February 2016

What I mean by this is the situations with other people (social situations) you find yourself in - which can include situations with family, friends, at work, and any other place you go to - and how these environments affect you psychologically.


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Setting and Achieving Goals: January 2016

A new year, like all new starts, is good for us. Throughout nature, and indeed throughout our lives, we are presented with opportunities to start over. The end of the year allows us to reflect upon the past, learn from it, and put it behind us.

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Self-Respect: December 2015

When I am doing work with clients on "the self", which happens a lot, I often ask them to do the following exercise. And you can do it as well as you read this.

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It takes more than talent: November 2015

Our minds can be our greatest friend or our worst enemy depending on what we tell ourselves. A lot of the time we create misery for ourselves by believing a lot of stories that we would like to believe but that just don't reflect the reality of the world we live in.


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Who are you hanging out with? October 2015

There is an old proverb that says, "Show me your friends and I will tell you who you are." We become who we hang around with. And the longer we hang out with people the more we are likely to become just like them.

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Studying Successfully: September 2015

I know for some of you exams are still some way off. But then for others, such as Grade 12's, they are just around the corner. And even if your exams are still in the future, you should not be leaving everything to the last minute and cramming if you want to do well.

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Better Time Management Part 2: August 2015

This is part 2 and the last part of the series on managing your time more effectively. Part 1 went out with the newsletter on 2 August 2015
We will start in the same way as with the previous newsletter, with some questions to see how productive you are and whether or not there is still a lot you can do to be more productive.

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Manage your time better Part 1: August 2015

Most of us wish we had more hours in the day to get through everything we want to. Well I do. The chances of you getting more hours in the day is very unlikely. Actually, it's not going to happen. However the chances of you managing yourself and therefore your time more effectively is a very real possibility.

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Motivation to Change: July 2015

There is nothing our minds like quite so much as the familiar. Even if we complain and groan about our horrible job, our useless manager, our uncaring friend, and so on, we tend not to do much to change it, because it is what we are used to; it is what we are familiar with.

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Success Beliefs: June 2015

A few years ago a young man came to see me. He said the reason he came for coaching is that he wanted to understand what was stopping him from being successful.

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Between Sessions: May 2015

This past month I seem to have come across a lot of people who are really battling to get through each day. From the time they wake up, the day ahead just seems horrible. In this newsletter I am going to outline two methods that can be used to help people feeling sad, miserable, defeated, or depressed, to feel better. You can also use these methods even if you feel good, to reach peak performance states.

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Ways in which you may be victimizing yourself. April 2015

While we tend to think of people who have suffered from crime, or abuse, or obvious unfairness as victims, these are not the only situations that can result in victims. Anyone trying to get you to do something you really don't want to do, and don't need to be doing, is getting you to be a victim.


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Conquer Stress: 5 Point Plan: March 2015

Although we are only two months into the year, I am taken aback by how stressed people already are. And if you are stressed now, unless you have some wonderful holiday planned, the chances are it is only going to get worse as the year progresses. Although many of us seem to think that chronic stress is just a part of life, and that we don’t have much choice but to suck it up, there are actions that can be taken to manage stress.

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7 Types of people you want to avoid being in a relationship with. Feb 2015

One of the aspects of my job is I get to listen to all sorts of problems people experience in relationships. And often the problem is that the person one is in a relationship with is clearly not someone who is psychologically healthy or ready for a relationship. So, this being February, and Valentine's month, here are some points to consider when you pick a partner. These apply for either partner in a relationship; they are not gender specific. They are about picking partners who are capable of having healthy intimate relationships.

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From Victim to Victor: Jan 2015

One of the readings that had a profound effect on my thinking was a chapter on "Taking Responsibility" that I encountered about 12 years ago. Now most people would consider me very responsible, but this chapter gave me some new insights. I thought back to six months earlier when I had accepted a job offer and started a new job only to discover a few weeks later that the recruitment agent and managers had provided incorrect information about the job.

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The One Habit that can make all the Difference: Dec 2014

There is one thing that successful people who are remembered decades, and even centuries after their death do, that they claim accounts for much of their success. They reflect. At the end of the day, at the end of the week, at the end of the month, and at the end of the year, they reflect on what was.

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Lessons learned from Start-Up Businesses: Nov 2014

As a business coach (one of my hats I wear) who helps others start and grow their small businesses, as well as having started my own business, there are some things that have stood out for me as lessons. Below I share some of them.

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Control your Angry Outbursts: November 2014

In this newsletter I am going to talk about anger, largely because of the focus in the media of the Oscar Pistorius trial. Now the trial was about murder, however behind everything was a lot of, seemingly out-of-control, anger.

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Study Tips: October 2014

This is the time of the year when exams start looming and so studying becomes intense. If you want to do well in exams this should not be the time you start, you need to be studying regularly. However, if you haven't started yet, then all is not lost, but you need to get busy soon. Today would be a good time to start if you haven't already started.

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7 Secrets of Super Successful People: Sept 2014

There have been numerous studies over the decades to understand what makes some people more successful than others. Despite what many folks think, it is not your background, or your education, or your parent's wealth, or your parent's occupation, among other reasons given, that result in success.

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Time to Bear more Fruit: August 2014

If like me you love gardening, and you are in the Southern Hemisphere, this is the time of year when your thoughts turn to pruning. It is time to chop off the old, dead wood and make way for fresh, new shoots to grow. Pruning also helps plants and trees take on a healthier and better shape.

Now plants are not the only things in need of pruning.

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Reinvention: The Gift After Loss. July 2014

There is a lot written about loss and the process of grieving for what has been lost, be it a person, lifestyle, job, or a dream that has been lost. The stages of grief - shock, denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance are well known. However loss is only one part of the picture. There is also the part that is about gaining something new.

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What does it mean to honor myself? June 2014

Almost everyone I get to work with does, in some way or other, not honor themselves fully. Actually that applies for almost every one I meet, not just clients. Sometimes my clients have experienced terrible abuse and feel they must be the scum of the earth. Sometimes they are people who have done things they are very much ashamed of (either because of untreated mental illness at the time, or they just did not know how to do better) and are consumed with shame and guilt.


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Dealing with Loss &Change. The Acceptance Stage: May 2014

Acceptance is one of the stages in loss/bereavement or personal change. It is a stage that some people never reach. It takes time, pain, and effort to reach acceptance. Some people refuse to feel all the emotions associated with loss. They have either become so cut off from their feelings they cannot feel and cannot remember when they last felt, or they believe that to feel their feelings would overwhelm them.


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10 Tips to Deal with Anxiety: April 2014

This month is a continuation of the phases of change. Often after shock and denial comes anxiety, fear or worry. And this can happen even if the change is one we like. Our brains like the familiar, and the unfamiliar, even the desired unfamiliar, can be a bit worrying. So although we typically think of anxiety as associated with danger, you can even feel anxious when you are not truly in danger, you are just out of your comfort zone. This doesn't mean something is wrong or bad. It just means you are moving into a new space.


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Stuck in Denial: March 2014

Sometimes it's not shock, but denial, that is the first response to hearing about change. Denial means you simply refuse to believe what you are being told. Denial is one of the most basic of the mind's defence mechanisms and occurs because we cannot handle hearing what is being said. We have to pretend it's not true because to believe it is true would be overwhelming.

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Take Good Care of You: Feb 2014

It is Valentines’ month, and traditionally this is a time to think about our partners. However those without partners sometimes wonder what to do with this day. Well you can keep it the same as any other day, or you could deliberately think about showing yourself some love. Every person, whether they have a relationship with someone else or not, has a relationship with themselves. The relationship you have with yourself is very important. It sets the scene for the quality of all your other relationships.

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Psychological Shock: January 2014

In this newsletter I am going to continue talking about the phases of personal change. The first one is often categorised as shock and denial. Below I am going to talk about psychological shock. In the next newsletter I am going to talk about denial because they are different; they present differently, and benefit from different interventions.

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Depression and the Festive Season: December 2013

Now I did say that I would look at the various stages of the grief and change cycle, and that I am going to do. However I have skipped the first few stages (shock/denial, anxiety, bargaining, and anger) because I particularly want to talk about depression given the approaching holidays.

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5 Ways to make it easier to deal with Personal Change: November 2013

In the last newsletter I said we would be looking at aspects of dealing with Life Transitions, such as major illness, death, relationship break-ups, job loss, etc. In this newsletter we are going to look at some ways in which you can increase your ability to deal with them. While personal changes can be very challenging, and nothing is likely to make them easy to deal with, there are things you can do to build your resilience - your ability to handle the knocks that life sends your way.

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Dealing with Life Transitions: October 2013

Several years ago I worked on a project at a mine. One of the project team members was a man who thought, spoke, and acted, as though life had punched him in the face one too many times. He had worked for this particular company for 15 years and when things turned bad he was retrenched. He was unable to find another job until the same mine asked him to come back again and work for them two years later.

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Stressed Out! Manage it Better: September 2013

Too much stress is not good for you. Now I hear you saying, "Well duh Penny, I know that". But sometimes I have to wonder. Being overstressed seems to have almost become a status symbol.


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Abuse in the Workplace: August 2013

Some years ago, a lady came to see me in a very stressed and agitated state. She was a competent, intelligent lady, with an MBA and good performance reviews. She told me that every day her boss would call her a "f*&%#ing bitch". And this had now been going on for some months.

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7 Ways to increase your Resilience: July 2013

Now I don't know about you, but my personal resilience depends a lot on how much sleep I had the night before. But that's just me. However there is quite a lot known about what makes people resilient, and what you can do to increase your resilience.


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Be a better listener: June 2013

Listening is a skill. And it is a skill that can improve our performance, both in a professional and a personal capacity. If you are a sales person then you need to listen very well to be able to understand the needs of your potential client. With careful listening you are more likely to make the sale. If you are a leader you need to listen to the people you lead. If you are a boss you need to be good at listening. How else will you know what is really going on in your organization? If you are a parent and you are good at listening to your children you will be a better parent.

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Handling Difficult Conversations: May 2013

We all need to have them and we seldom relish the prospect. I am talking about those difficult conversations. The conversation you need to have when someone has violated your personal boundaries. Or the conversation you need to have when you want to put forward a really great idea to someone known as a defensive boss. Or the conversation you need to have with a significant other when he or she has done something that really hurt you.

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Why entrepreneurial thinking is a critical life skill: April 2013

Life for those who have just left school and are looking for a job is tough. Life for those who have just graduated with a degree or diploma is also tough. Jobs are scarce, and they are particularly scarce for those with little or no work experience. Throughout the world, in developed as well as in developing countries, youth unemployment is a critical issue. Some go as far as to say it is a ticking time bomb in society. However you may call it, it is something that cries out to be addressed.


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Living with Integrity: March 2013

Integrity is one of those words that I think we use quite glibly. We use it without really thinking through what it means. We rate people deliberately on integrity when we are asked to, such as during a 360 degree manager review, and we rate people on integrity without even being fully aware of what we are doing, such as when we are sizing up a potential friend.

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7 Tips to Increase your Productivity: February 2013

Are you busy? If you are like many people then you are likely to reply that you are rushed off your feet. "How do I find the time to do everything I need to do?" is a plea I often get. "How can I get more done during the day is another?" "Social life, what social life?" people say to me. You get the picture.


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5 Tips to kick-start your year: January 2013

Yes, I know that 2013 is already three weeks old. However, sometimes this can be quite a good time to set your priorities and goals for the rest of the year. If you have already done so, then why not re-look them. If you haven't, then what is holding you up?


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Gratitude and appreciation: December 2012

Okay, I confess, this is December, and so you are going to read yet another post on giving thanks. This is after all the season to be festive and jolly and give thanks. But this is also the season to start planning for 2013; a time of setting new goals

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Forgiving and letting go: November 2012

Our path to wellness and success is often thwarted because there is something we just cannot let go of. We burn with anger and resentment; we act out our bitterness and hurt. Below is an approach that I use with clients and myself, that I have found really does make a big difference.


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30 Tips to get new clients: October 2012

This is something that lots of people want to know how to do. And if you don't have your own business, then I am sure your employer would like you to get more of the right kind of clients for them.

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Leadership and Hope: September 2012

Napoleon Bonaparte said, "A leader is a dealer in hope." Now many folks' experience suggests that rather than being dealers in hope, many leaders are better described as dealers in fear.

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Warning signs for suicide: August 2012

This is quite a somber article because it reflects the happenings of the last two weeks. And the last two weeks happen to involve lots of people in great pain as well as the stories of several successful suicide attempts. Last week, while at a workshop, the gentleman next to me told the group about an ex-colleague, who on hearing he had been laid off from work, proceeded to go home and shoot himself in the head.


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Get networking: August 2012

"I need to be networking", is something that lots of folks at some stage say to me. And they say it in such a way that it clearly holds as much fun for them as root canal treatment. They say it, with a hidden plea of, "Tell me how to make it easier and more exciting than I think it is".


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Practice Principles: July 2012

In this post I outline twelve principles which make up the philosophy I bring to coaching my clients. These principles form the foundation of what I do and what I believe people can achieve with change.

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The Unconscious Organisation: June 2012

Unconscious as I refer to it here, does not mean dead or in a coma – although I can imagine quite a few people would think that an apt description of the company they work for. In this post, it means unconscious in the psychological sense. That is, it refers to varying levels of unawareness of what is happening within the company and the surrounding environment


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Mind your language: June 2012

My neighbors have two miniature dachshunds. Karma is a long-haired black miniature dachshund and Tao is a smooth-haired black miniature dachshund. They are sisters and at present are about two and a half years old, having lived next door for two years. As miniature dachshunds they are tiny dogs - 6 inches in height. True to their breed they are very curious and brave. And Karma in particular is an extreme adventurer.


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Practicing Assertiveness: May 2012

Assertiveness means that I stand up for my wants, needs, and values, in a way that respects the self esteem of others. It means a willingness to stand up for myself, treat myself with respect in all encounters, and be who I am.

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Hesitant to Change. Nine ways to make it easier to effect personal change: April 2012

Twelve years ago, during a lecture for a postgraduate business course, the lecturer asked each of us to rate our level of satisfaction with the amount of change we were experiencing in the world and in our lives. While most people complain of too much change, a few of us mavericks raised our hands to indicate that we wanted to see more change.

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Take personal responsibility for your actions: March 2012

Coaching is known for having actions that clients need to take between appointments - sometimes this is referred to as homework. And these actions are always agreed to by the client.

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Manage your levels of alertness, focus and motivation: February 2012

In his book, "Your Brain at Work" (2009), David Rock talks about the search for the zone of peak performance. What he is referring to is having just the right amount of activity levels in the brain (specifically the prefrontal cortex where decision making and problem solving take place) to perform optimally.

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Three habits that will change your life: January 2012

Instead of setting resolutions for the year, set some new habits. After all, you are your habits. What you achieve and what you become is based on what you do day after day. I want to suggest three habits for you to develop that will move your life forward more than you could ever imagine - in fact they will transform your life. These three habits come from the following quote by Nora Roberts:

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Your life. Only, many, many times better: December 2011

If I were to ask you what roles you play in your life, I am sure you would come up with many - such as parent, friend, sibling, professional, manager, worker, spouse, etc. At this time of the year when the word frazzled best describes how many of us feel, you are probably even thinking of relinquishing some of the roles you have.

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Make more money and make more of your money: November 2011

Although they dislike the thought of reducing expenditure, most clients get this part. When I ask them how they can increase their income, many of them look at me incredulously and say, "Well I can't, I earn a fixed monthly salary". They see their salary from their employer as their income - their only income.


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Six tips for landing your dream job: October 2011

Because of the work I do, I receive many emails and phone calls from people who want advice on finding a job. Some have been unemployed and looking for a job for as long as two years. Finding work is challenging at the best of times, and when you have been looking for months or even years with no success, it requires a herculean effort just to stay motivated enough to continue with the search.

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Peak performance states and feeling good: September 2011

While many people want to be happy all the time, it really is not possible. Grief, for instance, needs to be expressed, and the only way to deal with the pain is to go through it. There are however times when being down is not helpful; when being in a peak state is critical to perform at our best.


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The power of vision: August 2011

To enable organisational and personal change two key requirements are necessary upfront. The first is to create a burning platform. The second key requirement, which many unfortunately forget, is to set a vision for the future. When you have set the platform on fire, people need something else to jump onto. And that something is vision.

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Ten things to know after a traumatic experience: July 2011

A traumatic experience is one in which the normal capacity to cope is completely overcome by a threatening event. Traumatic events can be man-made such as motor vehicle accidents or fires, they can be natural disasters such as floods and earthquakes, and they can be acts of violence, crime and terrorism such as domestic violence, kidnapping, rape, assault, or hijacking

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Building your personal resilience: June 2011

An enormous amount of time and energy is spent stressing, hurting, resenting, and venting about the words and behaviour of other people. Especially when we perceive it as directed towards us.

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Building your change resilience: May 2011

During a show on Oprah about the abuse of over-the-counter medication as well as illegal drugs, one of the doctors made a point that has stuck with me ever since. He said, "People turn to pills and alcohol because they have not learned to deal with the challenges and pain that are part of life."


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Six Steps to Success: April 2011

Somehow my April newsletters always seem to be about success and winning. And it is all because of various international sporting competitions on the go or about to start at around this time.

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The value of knowing your values: March 2011

It was only when I started my own business, and put a great deal of work into defining the values I wanted for my brand, that I began to see the real value in having clear values.

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Six Life Lessons we learn from Relationships: February 2011

We grow up believing that relationships are about learning to understand another person better. Well, yes, that is true. However, what is seldom told to us is that, even more than coming to an understanding of another, relationships are the mirror through which we come to a deeper understanding of ourselves.

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Five Steps to Renew your Life: January 2011

Hello, this is traditionally the time of New Year resolutions. I can already see the cynics among you wrinkling up your noses and laughing. New Year Resolutions - those things we make and expect to break a few weeks later.

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Celebration and Gratitude: December 2010

Let us remember that for many, December is a month of celebration and thanksgiving. Records show that since the dawn of mankind people of every country, culture and religion engage in celebration and thanksgiving.

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The Time to relax is when you do not have time to relax: November 2010

What do you do if you are one of those people who is so tired you would give anything for a holiday right now, but have to find the energy and enthusiasm to keep going for the next 6 - 7 weeks.


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From Despicable Me to Magnificent Me: October 2010

Sometime around the first quarter of this year I decided to sort out my files, my e-files on my hard drive, that is. Amongst the numerous files I found nine versions of my CV. So in the interests of clearing the clutter, I read them all with the purpose of consolidating everything into one updated document.

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What Assumptions have you made Today? September 2010

Think about the events that have transpired so far today. You may prefer not to of course (on the grounds that it is painful or embarrassing or just plain awful to reflect on this), but do this exercise anyway. How many assumptions have you made today?

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Change - The Courage to do a different dance: August 2010

One of the things we forget when life is going well is just how difficult it can sometimes be to make change. The energy and perseverance required to usher in the new can at times be almost overwhelming.


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Self Leadership - the foundation of all leadership: July 2010

Whether you are the leader for a large corporate, a family, a church, an NGO, a partnership practice, or any other type of organisation you can think of, if you want to be a great leader of others you need to be a great leader of yourself first.

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A World of Opportunities: June 2010

There are many phrases which stick with us because they are rooted in some profound truth or wisdom. One of my favourites is that fabulous line depicting South Africa as "alive with possibilities".

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Facing Your Fears: May 2010

Very recently the newspapers in Gauteng contained, amongst other horror stories, the news of a baby and her nanny who were attacked in their home. This story featured in a variety of media. Unfortunately this is not unusual news, and once the media scrutiny has died down the family will still be left to face the aftermath of this experience - which will include coming to terms with the fear generated from such an event.

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The Value of Self-Belief and Persistence: April 2010

With Easter behind us and the World Cup looming ahead, we are well into 2010. As we play host to the best football players in the world let us not forget what it takes to reach those levels.

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In what is awful there is beauty: March 2010

The above title is a line from the recently released film "A Single Man" starring Colin Firth as a college professor who loses his soul mate.

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Be Inspired: February 2010

A number of years ago after I had completed a talk, the CEO of one of the large South African Banks (he retired some years ago) walked up to me and asked "How do I get the hearts and minds of my people behind this company?"

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